What’s the primary challenge that stops us from fully living a rich life? Rich in abundance, friendships, love and fulfilment as well as financial security, a full life where we feel we’re on the right path and making the right choices. The challenge that we face most often is not recognising the importance to invest in yourself, to trust that you’re worth the effort, money or time.
I know this because I go through this same challenge every time I’m going to take a leap of faith, and a new opportunity comes along, and I don’t feel 100% ready that I would excel. Talking to some friends, I realised how often we’re kinder and supportive of others than ourselves. You might encourage your best friend to sign-up for a new course or apply for a job even when they don’t feel ready yet. You might acknowledge the success of your colleagues and still be blind to your achievements. Let’s see some of the excuses you might be telling yourself to avoid investing in the most precious thing you have, you.
I’m not ready yet
Two years ago, I had the opportunity to apply for a job that I wanted, and my life exploded throwing at me the most significant hurdle I ever had to overcome. I usually don’t talk about it as I am still processing it, but I’m sharing this with you because I want you to live your life to the fullest, acting in your best interest and investing in yourself above everything else. I lost my mother that year, and I didn’t feel mentally ready to focus on the interview process and to give it my best while dealing with my grieving process and efficient bureaucracy that follows the death of a loved one. I also thought about all the sacrifices I made until that moment and the efforts and time I invested until then to prepare for one opportunity to prove myself and get the job I wanted.
Yes, the opportunity arrived at such a wrong time but is there ever a right time? Is there a time when you think “I’m 100% ready to do this”? If that’s the case, that’s not a challenge, and it’s not growth, that’s something you like, and I am happy it’s coming your way. It’s only the beginning of your development as you will look further on to climb higher mountains and reach new and unexpected goals. Most of us, when faced with the opportunity to do what we want, will be afraid and find excused not to give ourselves a chance to succeed.
I jumped in with both feet and I was scared to fail, to succeed, to not be ready but I proved to myself that I was the one in charge of my destiny and not my fears.
I’m the captain of my ship, and I decide where the wind will take me.
I had the chance to prove my worth, and my experience as a leader focused on developing people, and new opportunities opened up thanks to that first chance. My inner critic says I could have done better if I didn’t have so much else to deal with and maybe she is right (if you have missed my article about inner critic, read it here), but as Jen Sincero thought me "Done is better than perfect!". If I had waited for the perfect opportunity, I would have missed out on the chance to grow and to become a stronger person, facing my fears instead of being dominated by them. I would have also lost an excellent career opportunity after working hard to get it. Don’t postpone your happiness!
Not good enough
Let’s say that you would like to learn how to paint and you attend few classes or maybe an online course. You look at your efforts and always compare them to experienced artists that initially inspired you but now remind you of the skill gap between you and them.
Will you quit? Will you stop doing something that you enjoy because the outcome is not good enough for your standards? Guess again. To become good at something, you need to practice. Even top athlete continue to practice every day to stay on top of their game and without thinking about outliers, consider public speakers, comedians and actors. They have to rehearse before being brilliant, and it’s an ongoing process. Would you tell a friend to stop playing the guitar only because he’s not as skilled as a professional musician? Why would you expect differently from yourself?
We’re harsher on ourselves, and we need to redefine what good enough is. That’s why the trick is to establish success based on actions you do every day instead of the outcome of those steps. If you do something every day, even if only for twenty minutes, I can guarantee you that you’ll become better at that specific task. Give yourself the chance to become good at something. That’s one of the crucial steps to invest in yourself and your future.
Can’t afford it
One of the most common excuses we provide when it comes to investing in ourselves is that we can’t afford the price, time or effort needed. I had a similar thought recently when reviewing few courses aimed towards entrepreneurs and bloggers. I want to improve the quality of content I provide you with, and I want to reach more people with my articles so I can help more people. Did you ever pass on hiring a personal or fitness coach because it seemed too expensive but had no problems spending the same amount or more on a new gadget or a vacation?
It happened to me as well, and I had to reflect on my priorities. In some cases, it’s true that something might be outside of your budget at the moment and that’s the part when you plan how to find the means to invest in yourself. The same philosophy applies to time, being busy is not an excuse to avoid doing something to improve your life, but the challenge you’ll encounter is to identify what task you should prioritise. I reassessed my spending habits and how I was managing my time and decided that if I want to become a better blogger, I need to believe that this project and my passion for it deserve to invest in it.
I’m not saying that suddenly you will have the money or free time or energy to do everything you want, but you will have the money, the time and the strength to do what you care about.
You need to put yourself first so that you can invest in yourself because you deserve it! You can achieve whatever you set your mind to as long as you have a plan for it. You can read more on how to set goals and keep them up on this post.
The importance to invest in yourself
You are the most important person in your life. You are the engine that will ensure you reach your goals and dreams. You are more than the sum of what you have done so far, and you still have the untapped potential of what you could do in your future.
What you cannot afford though is to stand still and stop evolving and improving. A new course might be the right way to learn a new skill, or you might want to spend more time with friends so you will need to free up that time in your life. There are multiple ways to invest in yourself as long as what you’re doing brings you joy in the long run. Don’t let fear stop you from doing what you desire. Take a leap of faith and believe in your ability to succeed.
Invest in yourself so that you can lead a rich and full life and pay it forward helping others doing the same. You can become your inspiration.
Before you go, let me know in the comments here below what is stopping you now from investing in yourself and the one thing that you are going to try after reading this post!
I believe in you!